We all have dreams and desires, ambitions and aspirations – at least, we started off life with those – but all too often they remain just that. They simply fail to materialise, or come to fruition, as life just “happens” around you! It becomes easier to stop dreaming and stop desiring; it becomes easier to adjust your ambitions and aspirations accordingly.
When does it happen? When did you realise that your goals cannot be reached? As life just drifts by, it’s so easy to find yourself in this position. It’s easy to find that your childhood goals, and your past ambitions, have just vanished away! Was it yesterday, last week, last month, or so many years ago that you don’t even want to remember? Sometimes, it’s impossible to work it out; other times it happens after a series of events. You see, we all have flaws, faults and failures – and when they knock you off your stride, we can easily give up, and stop striving towards our goals.
But there comes a time, sooner or later, that it’s obvious that your goals cannot be reached. For some, it’s a sudden realisation – when it hits you – this just ain’t going to work; for others, it comes slowly as you face disappointment after disappointment and time is just passing you by.
But it doesn’t have to be that way! You see, when it’s obvious that your goals cannot be reached, most people adjust the goals! But that’s the wrong way around, it’s upside down, back to front, or whichever way you want to call it. When it’s obvious that your goals cannot be reached, you shouldn’t adjust the goals, you should adjust the action steps!
When it’s obvious that your goals cannot be reached, you shouldn’t adjust the goals, you should adjust the action steps!
You see, as we get older, we forget the proverb: “if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again!” Just imagine if this happened when you were a child – you would never have learnt to walk, or ride a bike! How many times did you fall over when you were learning to work, or riding a bike? But you didn’t give up, did you – you kept going and going, and guess what – you kept trying a slightly different way (adjusting the actions steps) until one day you did it! One day, you managed to reach your goal – you walked, or you learnt to ride that bike.
We’ve forgotten those principles as we got older – we stopped adjusting the action steps, we stopped trying – and we just adjusted the goals. Somehow, we decided that as we hadn’t already reached what we were aiming for, we couldn’t reach it at all!
If this seems somehow familiar, you’re not alone. What’s more – we want to help. We’re working on the ‘Thrive!’ programme – helping you prosper, flourish and succeed – why not firstname.lastname@example.org to ask for more information. Meanwhile – keep adjusting your steps – not your goals.